There are quite large differences how the physics engines handle friction and contacts in general.
But I am still wondering why you can't make that effect work with 50ms simulation and 1ms dynamics time step, whereas it worked with 1ms simulation and 1ms dynamics time step. Maybe there is something else involved?
Maybe you can set-up a minimalistic scene that illustrates this?
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